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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think we ever feel our age. I don’t like to be around too many elderly either—having a mix imo is more normal, and youth energy is good, provided they are well behaved.

One shouldn’t feel they have to move a place they love just because they’re getting older. But it’s good to plan for the future and have plans in place for a quick exit. I had tried to get my parents to do this — to add elderly people features —but they were stubborn. Now one has to block the stairs to prevent the other with dementia from climbing it. She had fallen down them. Just one example of some of the disasters. I am sure now they wish they had listened to me.[/quote]

Look I get it. My mother feels the same way as a mix and she prefers young people and not old. She thought everyone in her neighborhood just adored her. They can no longer stand her. She took advantage of their offers to help if she needed it. They are busy raising kids and don't have time to indulge her in her endless chit chats which are hard to leave. Her mood swings and refusal to consistently stay medicated have made it so that she has alienated some to the point they avoid her and will quickly go back into their homes when they see her. I don't blame them. Her mood swings are frightening and you have to protect children from seeing that. Nothing her doctors can do to force her to take anxiety meds because she is still considered capable of making her own decisions.

After many years of being there for her with dad's emergencies (he has passed) and hers and her increase in rage toward me and mood swings I set boundaries. She is absolutely livid and will never forgive me and makes it known. So now she stews in her hatred of me as many of her neighbors hide from her. Yep, aging in place sounds like a dream! She is a social woman who lights up when she connects and while a snob as well, I am told there are plenty like her at the ritzy ILs and ALs, She loves cultural events and could be taking a van with girlfriends to these things while coming home to a gourmet meal at the cafeteria. Instead she lives in a home that is walking distance to nothing and she has no real friends around. This is someone who was the bell of the ball in her younger years at the same neighborhood.[/quote]

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