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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Here's what I want to know.

Does anyone truly believe an addict can be trustworthy? Be honest? Why? Where's the line? What do you need to see?[/quote]

You don't sound well. Truly. [/quote]

See, I'm crazy. Fine. But the point stands, it's impossible to trust an addict. That's why people on DCUM are constantly saying addiction is a legitimate reason (sober or not) to divorce or cut someone out of your life. Because they are trouble.[/quote]

You are so wrong OP. I say this with sadness for Tuy.

People can’t be trusted who can’t or won’t take personal responsibility for themselves - for their behaviors and their issues. It creates a break in integrity and unworkability in their lives. When actively drinking an alcoholic is not taking responsibility for the fact that their drinking is causing issues in their lives.

This isn’t unique to addicts. This is true for any individual. A lack of personal responsibility will create breaks in trust.

When someone chooses to face their addiction and pursue sobriety they are saying “I want to take personal responsibility” in my life. Over time this creates healing and eventually trust.

To say a former addict can never be trusted is just so so wrong.

It’s also interesting and inaccurate that you insist on calling your bil an addict versus a former addict.

If I took a wild guess I would say the reason you have such an intense reaction to your Bil’s history is actually because you have unfinished and in healed shame and anger within you for being the child of an addict. There is absolutely nothing upsetting about knowing someone is a former addict besides what it TRIGGERS IN YOU. This is something that your sister has clearly made peace with. Do not ruin her peace. Instead take on your own lack of it. Take personal responsibility. [/quote]

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