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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 3 kids. For my 2 older kids, we had small parties and not one person brought a sibling. Some dropped off. Many stayed.

I’m having an all class party for my kindergarten child [b]at a public place[/b]. I would rather you not come than bring a sibling. [b]I have a space problem as is.[/b] Unless you are a close friend, I don’t want your toddler.[/quote]

If you’re in a public place, what are you going to do with all the randos who also happen to be in your public space that day? I don’t understand what sort of space issue you are concerned about in a public venue (unless you paid to rent the whole place in which case it’s no longer open to the public). Presumably you are paying for X number of kids and have a party room for pizza/cake for X number of kids. If Y kids show up and don’t eat your food or otherwise require you to pay for them or count toward your package total, then you don’t need to worry about those Y number of kids whether they are a sibling or not.

I’ve never brought an uninvited sibling to a party before (aside from a non mobile infant in carrier back in the day). But I don’t see why anyone would care if a sibling happens to be in the same venue, but kept separate from the party. Please explain why you give a crap if a toddler runs around a public play place that happens to be related to one of your party guests?

I swear some of you just make up stuff to get upset about.

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Because they don't stay away from the party. The play part is about 75 minutes then they are in the private party space for the last 45. Who comes wandering in looking for food and favors? The uninvited siblings. Because mom is there to watch her kid and she can't do it when she's not in the party room. I swear some of you have never been to a kid party if you've never seen this. I've never seen the parent insist on staying and then pretending to be in the public area out of sight the entire time. Why stay at all then? The whole reason OP said she needs to stay is because she doesn't want to just drop off.[/quote]

NP.  I never bring uninvited siblings and YES, it's irritable when people do without asking, I get it.  If it's a space issue you need to be upfront on the invitation- "unfortunately we cannot accommodate siblings."  I don't get the handwringing over food and goody bags though.  If you have siblings show up that weren't accounted for in the RSVP, just don't hand them a goody bag.  If they ask say sorry, we only have enough for the number of kids on the RSVP.  And frankly what I'd put in bags for a 6yo may not be appropriate for a toddler anyway.  But I always seem to have extra cupcakes and pizza after these things because I typically account for parents when I order and then half of them don't eat anything.  So I'd be happy to have someone take more food so I don't have to bring home.
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People don’t care about no siblings on an invite. Otherwise we wouldn’t have tons of posts on this common phenomenon. I find disingenuous the people acting like this never happens or that parents don’t take advantage.[/quote]

I have 3 kids and most parties are at venues my other kids would enjoy. I have had my kids whine to play. I still drop off and leave. I often promise that we can go back sometime and we do.[/quote]

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