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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 3 kids. For my 2 older kids, we had small parties and not one person brought a sibling. Some dropped off. Many stayed.

I’m having an all class party for my kindergarten child [b]at a public place[/b]. I would rather you not come than bring a sibling. [b]I have a space problem as is.[/b] Unless you are a close friend, I don’t want your toddler.[/quote]

If you’re in a public place, what are you going to do with all the randos who also happen to be in your public space that day? I don’t understand what sort of space issue you are concerned about in a public venue (unless you paid to rent the whole place in which case it’s no longer open to the public). Presumably you are paying for X number of kids and have a party room for pizza/cake for X number of kids. If Y kids show up and don’t eat your food or otherwise require you to pay for them or count toward your package total, then you don’t need to worry about those Y number of kids whether they are a sibling or not.

I’ve never brought an uninvited sibling to a party before (aside from a non mobile infant in carrier back in the day). But I don’t see why anyone would care if a sibling happens to be in the same venue, but kept separate from the party. Please explain why you give a crap if a toddler runs around a public play place that happens to be related to one of your party guests?

I swear some of you just make up stuff to get upset about.

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Because they don't stay away from the party. The play part is about 75 minutes then they are in the private party space for the last 45. Who comes wandering in looking for food and favors? The uninvited siblings. Because mom is there to watch her kid and she can't do it when she's not in the party room. I swear some of you have never been to a kid party if you've never seen this. I've never seen the parent insist on staying and then pretending to be in the public area out of sight the entire time. Why stay at all then? The whole reason OP said she needs to stay is because she doesn't want to just drop off.[/quote]

Because it isnt an appropriate drop off venue.....
I just went to a birthday party at this type of place and there were 3 siblings present. None of them got food or a goody bag. Cake was offered as it was to parents and other adults. The siblings were paid for by the parents for open play.

This is not hard. Just communicate your expectations ahead of time. No siblings to me means we arent paying for siblings to attend. No siblings does not mean you either drop off or come alone- unless it is communicated explicitly.[b] And to blow your mind further, do you only expect 1 parent to show up? Would you be taken aback if BOTH parents showed up?[/b]
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Not taken aback per se but I sometimes wonder why both parents attend a party at a bounce-type place.  They're often loud and hot, even when we only had one kid DH and I always traded off and the other one of us would use the time to get weekend chores/errands done!  But maybe some people enjoy that sort of environment, I dunno.  I guess you can socialize with the other parents a bit but not as easily as say, a park or backyard party.[/quote]

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