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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Other than his mom and brother, what else is a mistake? Honestly that all sounds annoying, but not enough to divorce over. Especially if you don't see them every day or even every week. [/quote] It's not just about the annoying things. It is the mindset that his family can do no wrong. They always get the benefit of the doubt and I get none. Boundaries- his words are that families with boundaries are not close families. That is a quote. The way he treats his family vs mine. My family is consistent and predictably helpful. His is not. A good example of this. My mom has sent us a check every month since birth for our baby- to spend however we see fit. He nods, says nothing, Certainly does not call or text her thank you. His mom sent one toy and a book. He told me I needed to call her or write a thank you note. Double standards. Also, he was unemployed/underemployed for a long time. I sent him job posting after job posting. He rejected 99% of them. Said he would rather hold out for a dream job than settle. By settle, you mean contribute to your family's bills. I lost a lot of respect for him after that. I busted my ass to be the sole provider for almost a year, with a new baby. Because he didnt want to settle for a job that was not interesting to him. [/quote] Did he end up finding the kind of job he wanted?[/quote] Yes he did. One year that I was the sole provider. The job he found is in the area in which he wanted to be, albeit making half of his prior salary. He never sat down and asked me if he could/how it would impact our family for him to be unemployed for a year. No recognition of the pressure and stress on me as the sole breadwinner and returning to work from parental leave. I was holding my breath and busting my butt to make sure my job and health insurance for the family remained secure. I begged him to take on something less than "dreamy" to build back up savings and resume experience. Nope.[/quote]
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