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[quote=Anonymous]I have two, 6 and 3,and have struggled a lot with this question. My husband was staunchly opposed which made it easier, but still hard and sad. I'm starting to come around to just two, and here are some reasons why:

1. I am so sad about my kids growing up, but a third won't stop that from happening. I'll be back in this spot in 3 years again, only with more older kids to manage.

2. Like some other posters here, I've always gotten kind of a weird vibe from parents of 3. Most parents of 1 or 2 seem to unequivocally enjoy it. Parents of 3 often have kind of an edge to them, and I feel like many of them regret it but won't admit it (to themselves).

3. I wouldn't say I feel overwhelmed with two, but I'm definitely close to my limit. I figured that if I DID somehow discover a well of energy and money to dedicate to thea third kid, I could dedicate it to something else instead. So maybe I'll never have a third kid, but I'll start a business instead. Or I'll travel the world and learn another language. Or I'll go back to school. Idk. At the moment I'm too tired to do any of this, but it helped to tell myself that there were still additional investments of time I could make - having another kid wasn't the only way to add new fulfillment to my life. A part of me thinks I am just dreading stagnation.
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