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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is beyond obnoxious. As others have said, she’s trying to ask forgiveness rather than permission. I bet she will be manipulative in other ways too. Besides being a huge annoyance and a boundary issue, her plan to run around town with her friends while staying with you during peak of cold/RSV/flu/covid puts your defenseless newborn at significant risk. That would be my biggest concern. A few weeks ago we had the unfortunate experience of taking our 3 year old to the ER with breathing issues. It was scary. I cannot imagine doing this with a newborn. Your DH needs to tell her that based on the recommendation of the pediatrician, you are not allowing any visitors until the baby is at least a month old. Therefore, she needs to cancel her stay with you. Offer to cover the cost of ticket change, if needed.

Another scenario to consider is if she arrives and you go past your due date, going into labor while she is already here. She seems like the type to tag along with you to the hospital and insist on being there for the delivery. [/quote]

Yes, that’s how this started. She wanted to be in the delivery room and just announced “that’s how things are done” and when I said no she said she wanted to be waiting in the waiting room. I wasn’t comfortable with that either and that’s when we told family in the first few months of the pregnancy we wanted to bond with the baby and have some time to settle and be alone. This is her way of guilting us into taking her in because she’s a four hour flight away and everyone is aware she cannot afford to travel [b]and rent a car [/b]and stay at a hotel. No boundaries at all. [/quote]

You said she doesn’t drive.[/quote]

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