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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This whole thread is so cringe worthy. Full of self-congratulatory “retired” SAHM’s. I am a SAHM but you all make us sounds insufferable. Please stop.[/quote]

Who is us? [/quote]

You can’t group SAHMs together. Every mom is her unique person and another family’s situation has nothing to do with her.

Some people work for money. Others for personal fulfillment.

Some moms are ok with putting kids in daycare all day. I hated sending my kids to daycare even though my kids went to a great one and had a lot of fun with their friends. I still have mom guilt from those days. [/quote]

This is what is cringe worthy. You still have “mom guilt” over sending your kids to a daycare they loved? Do you even hear yourself? How that sounds to other people. Good thing you married a high earner to save your from your “guilt.”[/quote]

Yes, I sent my kids sick to daycare all winter. I wish I stopped working before. I am entitled to my feelings. I couldn’t make it to one of the few events my daycare had and my kid would cry because I couldn’t come. [/quote]

Yeah, I'm a FT WOHM/WFH mom who loves her job.  I have no desire to become a SAHM.  I don't think this is that cringe worthy.  I was never comfortable with (and did not use) full-time group care for mine when they were infants and toddlers.    [/quote]

Ok you are very happy with your child care situation but how is this remotely applicable to OP with a 4 year old and an 8 year old? [/quote]

Sorry that sounded sharper than I meant it to. I also struggled at times with child care when my kids were very young but by 4 they love preschool. It’s not the time I’d be leaving the workforce. My kids are similar ages and I am a PP who cut back so my kids didn’t have long days (feel this even more strongly with elementary school, my oldest is TIRED after school) but I feel like I’m at the point where the decision to stay in the workforce is paying off. [/quote]

I’m the pp who is now a SAHM. My older kids are tweens now. Most of my friends work. Every one has some sort of nightmare or bad stories. My most successful friend had a nanny who was abusing her kids. She only found out because her housekeeper told her. She chugged through and now makes a healthy seven figure income. She almost got divorced but her marriage survived. The husband ended up cutting back.

I tried many different situations before I stayed home. I used to have a FT nanny and worked PT. I had a FT nanny plus PT preschool. I had 2 kids in daycare for a year. Then the older kid went to elementary. I thought I was in the home stretch but I found snow days, two hour delays, teacher work days, school breaks and sick days to make it impossible. My husband has a very demanding inflexible job so I had morning and afternoon pick up. Yes, I paid for before and after care. He earned 10x what I earned.

I’m much happier staying home. I think my kids are also happier.[/quote]

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