Reply to Is middle school always miserable? (Mean girls)

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "Is middle school always miserable? (Mean girls)"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would love some perspective from others, especially if you have a girl…

DD just started 7th and the mean girl behavior is out of control. It definitely started last year, or maybe even a bit in 4th or 5th grade as friend dynamics started to change. I think she is on the periphery of the “cool” crowd but honestly the girls are all just so brutal to one another overall. It’s like they single a couple people out at a time and just make their lives miserable, then they move on to someone else. I just found out that one girl was tormented so much last year that her parents moved her to another school. I don’t think my DD is one of the active mean girls, but she is definitely guilty by association because she does nothing to those being singled out (and has been one the receiving end a few times). She explains to me that you either follow along or they make your life beyond miserable (spreading lies about you, sending you hate message on social media or by text, playing pranks at school, etc).

I have talked to a few friends with similar age kids and they seem to be experiencing the same with their girls in different schools… so is this just everywhere? Does it get better in high school?

At least in our case these girls are from good families with involved parents so I don’t understand why nothing at all can be done to curb the behavior.[/quote]

Do you know the parents at all OP? I'm wondering if you can say anything to a parent. Some parents will just get defensive but some truly would not want their kids to be mean to anyone. Only you know the parents in question to figure that out.

To a certain extent though, it really is important to stress with your own kids the importance of being kind, and to stand up for other people. It may be hard right now, but it will help later in life. My kid was this way all of 6th grade and she barely had any friends - she was probably bullied until April. But now (it's kind of self selection actually - jerks like to associate with jerks or doormats) she has a lot of good friends, and they are quirky, kind and funny. Not the popular crowd, but decent kids. Eventually people figure out who is worth spending time with.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics