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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think people understand what it's like to be a trailing spouse. I can't make friends. I work. Full time. I am at my computer from 7:30 in the morning until 5:30 at night. Everyone said I'd meet people when the kids started school, but that's dumb and hasn't happened - I drop them off, pick them up, and in four years, have never exchanged more than brief pleasantries with another parent. I have tried volunteering, but when you're generally solely responsible for childcare, that doesn't work out.

He knows I'm lonely. It's been like this the entire time we've been married. Not his fault. Mine. I thought I could handle the isolation (I'm an introvert!) but no one is ever really ready for something like this.

I get why he doesn't want to "socialize" with me - I have no life. Nothing to talk about. Conversation with me sucks ,as much as I try to be interesting, what kind of woman who sits at home all day have anything interesting to talk to about?

And yes, I also resent having to cook dinner every night. [/quote]

Yikes. You sound like you are in a bad place. I'm really sorry. It doesn't sound like your husband is taking your needs into consideration at all- it seems like he is treating you like a Mommy Machine who does all the stuff he doesn't want to do. And then lemme guess he can sideline your feelings all day but then expect you to be DTF as soon as the kids are asleep.

You are definitely showing signs of Depression so talk to a medical professional/therapist. Couple's Counselling is probably a good idea too.

And people on the thread who are blaming her- do you really not care about how your spouse feels at all? Luckily my DH was supportive when I was in the depths of Clinny D and not like you shower of shites. [/quote]

I have given some suggestions to OP and I might have come across like I think what her spouse is doing is okay. I don’t think it is. He sounds completely indifferent to her feelings and needs. And surprise: being married to somebody who is indifferent to your feelings and needs can cause depression.

But there is a chance he is a good guy who doesn’t realize he is acting indifferent and when he does, he will help figure out a way to make things better. [/quote]

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