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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a parent of a teen, I am seeing — what to call it? — a trend? A fad? A rash? of girls wanting to be known by male names and pronouns. I can’t say if they’re “transitioning” or not because I don’t really know the status of hormones or surgery or anything. But it’s happening quite suddenly. I am a “live and let live” type in general but I would be concerned if our generally welcoming community’s embrace of this will mean that girls make irreversible decisions based on momentary trends. I have seen absolutely no similar transitioning on the part of teen boys.

I remember being a less girly girl who was very uncomfortable with male attention. I solved it then by wearing short hair and non-revealing clothes. I’m concerned to see girls who think the only solution is a permanent gender change.[/quote]

Agree 100%.[/quote]

+1. This trend is particularly troubling when it is the only thing the child is latching on to- not school work, not sports or drama club, not family, not a hands on hobby.  Just trans/bi, internet influencers, and new friend groups focused on the same gender changes. [/quote]

My DD is falling hook, line and sinker for this. About to graduate and all the roomies she has found online for college next year are non binary. She thinks it’s so cool, so alternative. It is 100% a social contagion with girls. She has no interest in being intimate with another woman, but sometimes I think she craves friendship and is confusing the two.  I sound awful to some, I know. My brother in law is gay and I could not be more supportive (he’s 50, old news) but at least I believe him. Someone, please tell me she’ll grow out of this? Sadly I hear it’s all the rage in college. [/quote]

She'll probably hook up with a bunch of people in college, possibly some women or nonbinary people, and either realize that yeah she's not interested in that, or realize that yeah, she's super into that.  Either way, she'll come home from school a couple of times a year, tell you you don't understand what she's going through and sleep a lot, go back to college, do a few more ill-advised relationships, graduate, get a job, and some time in her 20s or 30s settle down with someone and have kids.  So just like all the nominally straight girls I knew in college in the 90s.  FWIW my high school friend group was almost entirely queer.  Two of them are married to men these days (both of whom identified as lesbian in high school), several are still lesbian or bi or queer (including me -- turns out I wasn't the token straight I thought I was as a teen), a few of us have kids, etc.  Your daughter might (like me) be drawn to LGBTQ+ friends because there's something in her social experience that makes their experiences relatable, so she may grow into it rather than out of it.  But she may also just think it's cool right now and grow out of it (like some of my friends did).  She's a teen; they grow out of a lot of things.[/quote]

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