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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, I think one of the posters nailed it. I think that there is very timid poor communication here on both sides. The rejected partner does not want to "hurt" anyone so never really makes their spouse listen. I admire the pp who made a list and said divorce or else. I think people who refuse to ever put divorce on the table are martyrs. Because unless you KNOW you would never divorce, even if infidelity, then you are just sitting around being a martyr victim, giving up all your power. Not saying throw it up in every argument, just that you've thought about it.

Or just cheat. Really, what's the big deal?

I've been on dcum for a few years and I have to say, with this + dan savage, I definitely don't consider infidelity anything like a dealbreaker. If I had a low drive spouse, I would accept it and cheat. Definitely. [/quote]

I am one of the posters who are in a sexless marriage, and I'm a DW.  While it bugs the hell out of me to live a life of involuntary celibacy, I would never divorce "because" of this, assuming everything else is satisfactory, because we have children. What do I tell my son? Mommy broke the family because she couldn't get her rocks off with Daddy? seriously? I don't say I'd NEVER divorce, but I wouldn't make my sexual satisfaction a priority over my child's need for a complete family.  I realize you may feel differently, but this is how my mental calculus worked this out.

The big deal with cheating is that it's not exactly satisfying. I'm not sitting around craving an orgasm from a random person.  I want to have mad sex with my husband, the man I married.  Sex I can have with other people, while it can be good, is just not the same commodity. [/quote]

I am in the same position as you... But I am a DH.  My DW has some issues that she needs to work through.  When a computer starts acting strange... You can reboot them and in most cases they come back to where they were before the strangeness.  in a 30 minute tv drama... There is an issue and it looks like the end of the world but in less than 30 minutes all is happy and normal again.  The real world and people are not like that...

Have you already cheated?
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