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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I teach in a Title 1 school. Most families in our school live with extended family so childcare was not an issue for most of them. They all got laptops and hot spots and kits of supplies for each child. We reached out to every parent to ask what else they needed. Most of the absences were due to parenting issues. “Larla doesn’t like to _________.” Go to bed, wake up on time, do Zoom school, do class work, participate in class, etc. so our phone calls basically ended up as parenting sessions. [/quote]

A few months into the Pandemic, I talked to a school counselor at my kid's school. My child (9) was freaking out at any request, throwing tantrums, hiding out in her room for 23 hours a day because anytime we interacted she was ending up with a consequence. The counselor was really helpful. On her recommendation, I focused on positive parenting, reduced my expectations, focused on a few key things that I required. None of us had parented through a pandemic, or been a kid through a pandemic, or taught through a pandemic.[/quote]

I'm glad you were able to use the help you were given. Most parents weren't interested in help. The pandemic didn't bring up new issues with their parenting. They needed parenting help from the beginning. The teachers all wish we could hire a bilingual parenting coach. This full-time person would hold mandatory meetings with parents about their roles and responsibilities as parents as well as the school's/teacher's roles and responsibilities. They could also have one-on-one family sessions to coach parents on how to parent. They just don't know how and it creates a lot of issues in the classroom. None of this is pandemic-related. [/quote]

Can you give some more examples of the parents who don’t know how to parent? You mean they don’t send them to bed on time or make them do their homework?[/quote]
DP but I have many students whose parents allow them to play video games all night, send them to school with exclusively junk food, and don’t enforce any sort of homework/independent reading at home. They come to school and have no motivation to do work, because they’re exhausted and have no stamina for completing tasks. They have no responsibilities or boundaries. I also have students who are 8, 9, and 10 who expect teachers to blow their noses for them. Their parents do everything for them and have taught them no independence. We have kindergarten parents requesting we potty train their kids. None of them know how to tie their shoes. It’s really clear that the parents need support. [/quote]

I have many families where the sister is expected to basically parent the brother even though they are almost the same age.   The boys are the ‘golden children’ who do whatever they want and get away with murder while the girls are expected to behave, go to school and take care of the boys.  [/quote]

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