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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who are all this women who have an abundance of dating choices that they get to filter out by salary? Do women in DC metro have that many options these days?

It wasn't like that in the 2000s when I was dating. I married a man in 2008 who made $65K. We now make HHI $600k.

You know that you can date and marry someone that you love, and then grow together, right? No wonder everyone is so miserable. [/quote]

How old were you in 2008? These women don't have abundance of dating choices, they just dont want to make poor life choices that would make them even more miserable. It's easy to destroy someone's financial stability in divorce if you joined finances and then become a mooch.

I would rather not date at all than dating someone who is 50 y.o. and makes 60k/year. This is a huge red flag about that person intelligence, goal setting, financial planning, social skills etc.[/quote]

I was 29 in 2008 - same age as my DH. I'm going to bet that the vast majority of women on this board are not dating in their 50s. While there may be some, it does not constitute the majority of the dating scene. 
My point is that excluding a really good match who otherwise meets all criteria based on salary alone is incredibly short-sighted and shallow - and probably why so many people remain single well into 40s/50s. My question is why you can't make your own money? Isn't that a huge red flag about intelligence, goal setting, financial planning, social skills, etc.? I rely on no one to do that for me. [/quote]

I am no different from you: I married at 26, making $85K back then, my exH made about $120K. We divorced at 600K family income each of us retaining 50% of $5mm family assets.

Ok let me ask you this: if you get divorced in 2022, have your kids and the house, would you date someone making 85K at age 45-50 with a view of ever marrying this person?[/quote]

It depends on what that person did for a living and what we had in common. If he was a scientist/researcher who made little to no money, yes, absolutely. Struggling author who was trying to get published? Journalist? Sure. Someone with no education? Likely not. For me, it is the education level that is of greater interested rather than salary. I make the bulk of our HHI, though,  so I'm not worried too much about what my DH brings in. [/quote]

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