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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for taking the time to post your comments.

The reason I started this thread is because of my MIL. My MIL is 92 years old, she was widowed 10 years ago and she still lives in her own house. MIL suffers from dementia. She receives a lot of support from my DH and his 2 siblings, and from various home health aides. 
MIL receives round the clock care in her own home, 24/7, 365 days a year. Cleaner/housekeeper 4 times a week, 3 live-in aides/companions (24/7) who work in shifts, other aides, and MIL's children who keep her company in rotation.

MIL is a wealthy woman, she can afford to hire aides round the clock. The reason she is getting so much hands on support is because her 3 children (including my DH) have financial POA and they hired the aides on her behalf.

DH and I will never get this kind of help when we are elderly, because we don't have children to organize the help for us, should we become cognitively impaired. So our job is to do the organising ourselves while we are still physically healthy and sound of mind. Forward planning is key, but how ...?

I find it quite depressing thinking of all of this right now. I sometimes suffer from bouts of anxiety and then I start catastrophizing things in my mind. My DH - being 9 years older than me - laughs it off and says after he dies I should enjoy the pension pot and have fun!

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OP, I don't recall...are you getting help for your anxiety. if not, please do. People have told you what those without kids do and frankly I have kids and plan to do the same. You can hire people to take on just about any role and set up a checks and balances. I have relatives who did this. Continued care is a great option. You are stuck in a loop of obsessing. You don't seem to get that even those with kids may not be better off, especially if they age poorly and have many needs over many years. People burn out. Don't waste the rest of your life miserable. Get help for the anxiety and then plan it out.[/quote]

Not OP, but you are a Pollyanna if you think you are just going to hire it out.

People quit. How do you hire new ones when you are cognitively impaired? [/quote]

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