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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m 47 and single, no kids and never married. Live in a different country than my family, who are not close. I plan to go to the Netherlands for assisted suicide when I’m 65-70. I’m not depressed or suicidal, I just feel like that’s a long enough life and I don’t want to be alone and unable to care for myself. I want to be able to control how this end, peacefully. [/quote]

This makes so much more sense than all the posts about who to trust with your financial and other issues when you become cognitively impaired and have nobody else. I mean, if you reach that state, why would you even care? We allow people to live way too long. My father just died last month at the age of 89 and the last three years of his life have been absolutely horrendous--for him, my mother and me. [b]And now, I have mountains of resentment toward my mother who expects me to go see her once a week--she lives 3 hours from me. I have a full-time job here and a very busy teenager at home. I just can't and she is impossible to be around. I do not ever want to be the person who my kids don't want to deal with.[/b] If I get to 65, I will consider the rest gravy and hope I don't live to a state of such physical and mental decline that any of this is a question. I will follow PP's plan and head to the Netherlands if it comes near.[/quote]

I relate so much. I gave everything I had being there for dad and dealing with my crazy mom who could not handle any of it with tons of help. I have no regrets in that area because he was good to me. I would be thrilled if my mother told me she never wanted to see me again because I am forever burned out from her tantrums, nastiness, immaturity and entitlement all those years and now. I feel like I can't just cut off from her, but it drains me completely seeing her and just think what is the point. Mom wanted to prolong dad's life when he was a vegetable. It was cruel and inhumane to watch him suffer. She is so insanely afraid of death. My only hope is my kids are happy in their lives and my husband and I both die peacefully without this long prolonged nightmare.[/quote]

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