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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You really do sound like a good guy, OP.  Have you considered that maybe DW is having a hard time transitioning between thinking of herself as "mom" and "wife"? She may have lost herself in her identity as a mother and with that, her sex drive. You seem to have thought about this a lot, so maybe you've already tried, but things like date nights, etc., do you do that stuff? What opportunities does she have to be an adult woman?[/quote]

I'm not OP but I am a DW. He said his kids are 9 and 7. Pretty sure she should have made the transition to "mom" by now. Mom and wife are NOT mutually exclusive. You don't get a pass for struggling with your identity when you've been a mom for nearly a decade, come on. I hate this notion that women have to be coddled- constantly complimented, wooed, pursued to be made to feel attractive, yet also left alone for "me time" and "woman time" in order for her to be a contributing member of her marital relationship. NO. You get married, you say vows, which include forsaking all others. The implication being, you're forsaking them FOR ME. Not FOR NOTHING. Sorry, I think sex and intimacy in a marriage is each spouse's right. Women shouldn't have to have their feet kissed and all their changing whims met on a daily basis for their husbands to feel like they've "earned" sex. [/quote]

That's not what I'm saying. But, the OP's DW could have gotten emotionally stuck and may need to work through it. You obviously don't have a lot of compassion for that. [/quote]

Nope, not really. I have compassion for the people who are stuck in a lifeless marriage with these individuals who are happy to sit around and perpetrate the status quo upon their spouse because they're too lazy or unmotivated to make a change and don't care to because they know their husband/wife will stick around for the kids. [/quote]

I feel sorry for your spouse and family.[/quote]

LOL you go right ahead, but my husband's not the one posting on an anonymous message board about how I make him so miserable he'd be gone if it weren't for the kids. We have this neat thing known as "give and take" in our marriage. [/quote]

You mean you have a "give and take" until your DH or kids turn up with a serious mental health or health problem that infringes on your needs. At that point you'll be blaming them for their problems and telling them to just buck it up. Good luck with that.  [/quote]

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