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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Suppose you are separated for 7 months. Eveyone in you and you exes circle knows. For years leading up to the sepration, you had 'chemistry' with two of the other husbands in your circle. Since separation flirting has increased noticeably.

I don't want another husband, but I would like an occasional affectionate partner. If it was kept purely physical and no emotions at all, (I guarantee I can do this) how feasibale is it for the next few months?

I just want some physical intimacy with men I 'know'. I have no interest in hook ups off the internet.

I'm 42, in the DC area, custody of 10-13 YO kids is split and the separation is amicable. I can't be the only one.[/quote]

On a scale of 1-10, how much do you value your friendship with the wives of the two men you are considering?[/quote]

And the friendship of those wives’ friends, as most women would drop someone who screwed their friend’s husband.[/quote]
 
Forget friendship. If I knew you were sleeping with a neighbor’s husband I would stay away from BOTH families. I do not invite drama in my life and even if our kids were  friends, I would low key try to discourage the relationship through attrition, basically being “busy” for play dates and avoiding when possible.

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And that is why it’s so isolating for betrayed spouses.  They lose friends and become a pariah through nothing that they did.  It’s supremely unfair that they carry that shame.[/quote]

A lot of people rallied around the betrayed spouses in our town, not everyone avoided them as pp said. Maybe distant acquaintances or something, but friends were there...for both couples actually which of course included the two who cheated. Their children were the very best friends of ours, there was no way we felt we were going to or wanted to remove our children from their friends,  we never said a word to our children about what happened, fifteen years later, they still don't seem to consciously  know and they are all still friends.  (maybe once a few years ago my daughter asked about tension between the two families way back, why child of x family no longer did sleepovers at y family, that kind of thing.  I just said i did not know and it was really their own business not ours, but I knew it was hard for them ). Both couples are still together though again, one moved away. (And never kept in touch). Which I guess I understand.[/quote]

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