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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you tried donor milk?  In my area there is a good milk bank that has very strict criteria for donors and does some kind of ?Pasteurization process on the milk so it is very safe.  (I think they actually ship around the country so I'll provide the link - but obviously local can be easier - https://mothersmilk.org/ They will provide the first 40oz without a prescription - but after that you need a prescription.  The coordinator is very helpful if you have questions :) )   
It is expensive but sometimes you can get insurance to cover. 
Maybe your baby will take that if you haven't been successful with formulas.   (I'm assuming you would be more comfortable with strictly controlled donor milk than peer-to-peer sharing - but that is obviously also an option.) [/quote]

Peer to peer donor milk? There was a Netflix documentary that tested the donor milk available in those groups. Some of it was no better than sewer water. You have zero idea how that milk was handled or stored, or what diseases the donor may have or their partner may have and passed on to the donor without her knowing (spent any time in the Relationships sub-forum? Lots of cheating men out there). There is ZERO reason to resort to this when safe alternatives are available. [/quote]

That is why i suggested the milk bank.  [b]They feed it to NICU babies - it is quite safe and for NICU babies safer than formula. [/b]

Peer-to-peer encompasses a wide range of arrangements some of which are more risky than others.  If you get milk from a friend who has been screened and tested  you can minimize  the risk but I agree there is still increased risk. But if your baby is refusing all formula and it will take your friend's milk then it is potentially a less risky option - particularly if you trust your friend.  There is a middle ground between random untested strangers and highly screened and tested and pasteurized donor milk.   But yes I would always recommend milk bank milk over any peer to peer for its safety. [/quote]

NP but those NICU babies need that milk.  OP's baby needs either formula or a mom willing to pump and feed breastmilk from a bottle.  Leave the milk bank milk for preemies.[/quote]

OP's baby has refused multiple formulas - it is not as if OP isn't trying hard. Not everyone can pump a lot depending on circumstances - I couldn't although I tried my hardest - and being a single mom made it really really hard.  
Her baby NEEDS something to gain weight and if OP can't get him to take formula,  using milk bank milk is perfectly appropriate.  [/quote]

She literally has not tried to pump.  It's not a matter of cannot, it's a matter of will not.

[quote]Another option was to pump and feed, but I don’t want because I don’t think he will want to breastfeed if he is only bottle fed for the next month. It also seems like a lot of work. [/quote][/quote]

Ok. I'm more interested in providing another option to get her baby fed which is of paramount importance than shaming her into pumping.  It is so overwhelming. I remember when they told me I should pump 10-12 x a day at the hospital - it felt so impossible and when I got home my baby would scream every time I tried to pump.  Pumping sessions while holding a screaming baby produced a minute amount of milk. And needless to say I was far far far away from the recommended pumping sessions per day.

No judgement from me if someone wants to try donor milk after their baby has refused 5 formulas and is not gaining weight.  Beyond the first 40 oz need a prescription so their doctor will serve as another determinant as to what is appropriate.

But in terms of her concern about acceptance of breastfeeding of bottle fed - that is one reason I used an supplemental nursing system (SNS).  (Other reasons were that it cut down on time it took to supplement.  Instead of triple feeding I ended up pumping one breast while I fed with SNS on the other side  until my DC was able to transfer milk more efficiently.  I wish someone had told me about "parallel pumping" earlier - it would have helped me pump more initially.  Doing this  compressed the amount of time needed to get her fed and some pumping done.)   [/quote]

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