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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pp: I don't think having a mean stepmom is going to help your stepson be any kinder of a person.   If your disdain for him can come through so clearly in a couple paragraphs imagine how obvious it is to him.[/quote]

It is not disdain for him, it is disdain for that behavior. No different than when you get mad at your child for having a temper tantrum or being rude. You don't dislike them, you dislike the behavior. [/quote]

Please. Your post OOZES "evil stepmother" vibe.  Sure, the kid may be horrible.  But if he were your kid, you'd see it as just one flaw in a kid you otherwise love, and you would not declare him a bad kid in general.  But no, the tone of your post makes clear that you don't really like him.  This is such a common dynamic with stepmothers -- exaggerate characteristics of the stepkids so that they become "horrible kids" in general.  I don't blame you for this tendancy because being a stepmother is really freakin' hard, and I believe that it is an inherently difficult relationship to manage.  In a lot of cases I think there's just an instinctual dislike to the stepkids that's probably biologically based.  However, you're the adult, and it is your job to overcome this and provide a loving home.  [/quote]

You have a very limited ability to process information or other people's perspectives. Nothing in her post would lead one to take what you did from it. [/quote]

Hmm, let's see, the fact that she compares her step unfavorably to her own kid; the fact that she even saw fit to be posting about her step on the internet anyway ... all suggests to me that she holds him to much higher standards than her own kid.[/quote]

I am the "evil stepmother." I hold him to somewhat higher standards in this situation- he is 15. My child is 2. Now, if she were old enough to be showing entitlement, you can bet I'd be doing my best to knock it out of her as well. I didn't say "My kid is soooo much better." She is not yet at the age where she can really be entitled. I am doing my best now, in her early childhood, to not let her get to that point. I didn't compare them at all in regards to this quality: she's two. She's too young to be entitled. I'm sure when she gets older and develops more of a real personality, there will be things about her that compare less favorably than to my stepson. I don't think she's perfect. I do want both my kids to turn out to be good people, which is I hate to see that he acts entitled at a young age. That's all I was trying to get across.

However, I'm not going to say anything else about it. It always turns out this way on DCUM when a stepparent writes about a stepkid. There's always the contingent that wants to believe stepparents are the root of all evil and secretly hate their stepkids. It's not true, but many women on here like to think so. [/quote]

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