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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well all 4 of mine were 60 and newly retired/soon to be retired when we had our kids. And ours will be the only grandchildren on both sides. We're suffocated and constant demands really strain us. They aren't helpful because they want to enjoy their retirement, but on the same time, they want grandchildren to put on a command performance. They want crazy travel with us and the grandchildren. They have time to host massive christmases when DH and I are burnt out and want small christmases. It's just hard. It's like they all have way too much time on their hands.[/quote]

AMEN. I completely feel this. My MIL who lives locally here in DC also was a stay-at-home-mom and I feel like she's constantly, in a very out-of-touch-way, implies to me that I "get" my 8 month old all the time and "whenever I need a break," she'd like to see him, however with my husband and I both working long hours, I'm lucky if I get an hour with him on weeknights, and it doesn't seem to register that - while we try and include them in our schedules as much as we can and are kind about it - weekends are not full "grandparent time" as I also like to meet up with my friends and their kids and have one on one or immediate family time with our son.

Totally get the holiday thing too. We are EXHAUSTED and Xmas is the one week a year both my husband and I have a vacation (he works full time and is in grad school part time), and both sets of grandparents are pushing for time, and we have had to explain that we haven't even had time alone as a family w/o working literally since my son was born in March since my husband didn't take leave from school.

Any advice or suggestions you have on handling those conversations is greatly appreciated. I just feel like we don't even have time for ourselves, let alone others. Only grandchild on both sides, as well, and I literally constantly feel like I'm disappointing with people and when we do see grandparents, conversation is nonstop (no joke) centered on "Why don't we see our grandson more".[/quote]

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