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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP and there’s a sense of grandparent entitlement that this generation of grandparents has. I’ve spent 20+ years as a mom managing three grandparents’ expectations. My kids are young adults and a teen - DC are responsible for cultivating and maintaining relationships with their grandparents now.

[b]My own mom is the worst - overbearing and scorekeeping and laments that her grandchildren (some 1500 miles away) don’t visit as often and then when they do, she is bothered that they don’t spend 24/7 time with her (visiting friends, sleeping late, shopping, sightseeing…all recent complaints I had to hear).

My grandparents were the opposite-they loved just having us visit. No expectations. They were always concerned we’d be bored at their quiet house - and it ended up being so relaxing and a respite.[/b]

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This is true. My own grandparents' house - you could do what you wanted; they sort of encouraged you to sleep in as a college kid, then fed you homemade food etc. and if you seemed bored, were always trying to take you places/buy you a book or something etc. But you didn't HAVE to do anything; if you just want to lounge in front of their tv and chat, they were happy to have you. Now it seems more about - exactly what did they do when here; how many activities - i.e. how many pics did I get with them; etc. Maybe it's because boomer are more go-go-go themselves but really I think social media has something to do with it too - they want to show their grandparent friends that they went 8 different places with their grandkids, whether grandkids wanted to or not is irrelevant.[/quote]

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