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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think as we age and grow and change over time, we may want different things.  Kids are biologically not possible naturally for women at a certain age.  Therefore as women, it's a hard decision.  What you feel at age 25.38,42,57 may all be different.  Whereas a man could naturally father a kid at an older age, I suppose adoption is possible for someone but unless you are very well off and could position yourself as a quality candidate to parent, as a woman, good luck with having a kid at an older age.

But if you have a kid you may regret the days and nights and the energy and money on them[b] but chances are I think at least you won't have that yearning [/b]and one day they leave you and you still have a life.

It's a really hard thing to say you'll never change.  [b]It's also silly for people not to admit regrets and mistakes.  [/b]Those people aren't capable of growing.  It's another thing if you choose not to have kids and are at peace with that choice - however - reiterating that time doesn't guarantee you will always feel the same way.

Personally I would rather err on having kids.  Getting married over not.  To have people and family in your life is worth the gamble.  [b]You gotta try and take that risk of happily ever after[/b] v no options ever.  [/quote]

Yearning - people choose not have kids because they don't have that yearning.  Most reasons I have heard is that people simply don't want that experience in life.  They don't want to have children hence there is no yearning for children or that lifestyle.  I would suggest if you feel any yearning at all then yes have kids.

To say its silly of people not to admit mistakes is insinuating that you think people that don't have kids do regret but won't admit it.  Because you would regret not having kids, you possibly can't understand others may feel differently.

Happily ever after - the fairy tale dream every little girl is sold, you will meeting prince charming get married have 2.2 children and live in a nice big house with a yard and a dog and have big Christmas's with all the family smiling, drinking hot chocolate.  Movie after movie of the same life script.  Yes people buy into it and want to live it, to live happily ever after or there is the fear of regret.

Some people simply want different things.  This might blow your mind but you can have people and family in your life without having kids.

Besides the real scenario is if you have kids and do resent the time and money, kids can pick up on that and it can lead to ongoing lasting problems and broken relationships.  Just go to the family forum and see all the problems.  It certainly is a gamble.

It really is simply if you want kids have them if you don't then don't. I know for certain if I didn't travel I would regret that in my life, I know it in my bones, so yes there are things we just know about ourselves, if you really don't want kids then you know it in your bones.  Its the same feeling as when you do want them.
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