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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for your comments!

OP here. Yes, the reason for quitting is alcoholism. The people coming over are my in-laws, so not like friends who I can distance myself from. DH is supportive of me and doesn’t drink when I’m around. His family are heavy drinkers. If someone had one or two drinks, I can handle that, but not when they drink a 6 pack of beer by themselves or bring a bottle of whiskey in their bag to mix with Coke. I’m not comfortable telling them that I’m recovering. They’re kind of judgmental.[/quote]

[b]It's not a friggin' "dinner party" if it's your relatives, for Pete's sake.  Why do DCUM posters insist on doing this -- not telling the whole story in their original post and then dripping out the details?[/b]

If you're not comfortable telling your in laws -- your family -- that you're in recovery and don't want them drinking at your house then don't have them over for dinner.  Plain and simple.  One thing you can't do is tell them they can't drink without any explanation.[/quote]

+1  I have the same feeling.  Everything else is a waste of time if you don't give the real deal.  In this case it is an anonymous forum.  No one knows who you are, OP.  When people like you play this game it makes me think less of you because you're being so dramatic.  It also makes me think that what others think of you is more spot on than your perceptions of them.

I completely agree with the PP that the way you manage relatives, your husband's family, is completely different than the way you manage a friend group.  If you don't "get" that then there is a lot more wrong with you than being an alcoholic in recovery.[/quote]

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