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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When is the last time your DD saw her father? If it was long enough ago that she didn't see step-mom pregnant, that's why DD is unnerved. Her dad has a new baby that gets all of him, and she hasn't seen him in X months.[/quote]

Before the pandemic started. Usually she saw him over breaks as the lives on the west coast.[b] He would fly here and she would visit[/b]. We divorced when she was young so my current DH has been someone she saw on a daily basis [/quote]

Thats too long without a visit. Way too long. She's 16 and should have, at a MINIMUM, been flown out for a visit as soon as she was vaccinated (which should have been months ago now). My son, whose father is in a different state, has continued visitation throughout the pandemic.

She's not angry about the baby. She's angry that her dad hasn't insisted on seeing her. [/quote]

Read the post.  DD isn't allowed to visit Dad.  Dad has to always be the one visiting and its only been a visit vs. actual time with Dad.  Mom blocked the relationship, Dad gave up.[/quote]

But DD is mad that dad hasn't insisted. He could insist. He also could have flown out to visit during the pandemic. If OP is the one blocking the relationship (from the bolded in the embedded quote it's not clear if DD also flies to the west coast to visit, or if visits only take place when dad flies east), then DD will realize that in time and OP will get her due.[/quote]

He shouldn't have to insist.  There should be a regular visitation agreement that DD visits every holiday and summers and plane ticket cost shared since mom moved away.  He didn't insist as MOM has never allowed the child to visit in Dad's home and expects Dad to pay for it all and do the visiting.  This is a favorite uncle situation, not Dad.  Dad should not be flying in a pandemic.  If mom supports the visits, given Dad has flown out, gotten a hotel, etc. the least she could do is fly the child out once and get a hotel room so child can see Dad.  I bet this mom has never done that even once.[/quote]

OP here I have another DD so how can I be paying for flights? He lives out of state [/quote]

OP, you said you moved away.  You just up and left and took the child and refused visits for several years.  Yes, it is typical to split the costs of plane tickets.  You both live out of state.  You both have moved.  YOU are complaining that your daughter wants to see her Dad.  You have put NO effort into the relationship.  YOU could be decent and fly with DD out there and get a hotel room for a few days and daughter and Dad can see each other outside.  Problem solved.

I'm just curious how much he pays in child support and how much in extra's does he pay?  And, what do you pay for out of your income?[/quote]

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