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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You guys really need to have a honest conversation.  Put aside your personal pride and stubbornness and acknowledge the bad choices, but not to dwell on them, but to try and fix them or at least change them.

So, is money the issue? Or is it DH being away too much and disconnected?

Not to be skeptical, but does DH have trouble with time mgmt which is why he can't seem to ever finish his work? Or does he use his "work" as an excuse to get out of parenting?

There's a lot more going on here than just Dh's meager pay and your paycheck covering the mortgage, right?[/quote]
I think of it like this: if he made more and worked the same hours, we could outsource more and spend quality time together. [b]It wouldn’t fix the dinner problem, but it would be easier to swallow.[/b] If he made the same amount and worked less, I could be really happy with that.

As far as time management, his boss just piles on the work. He has his daily duties that take all day, and then he get special projects on top of that. Most people stay at this organization for a year, maybe two. He has been there for 10. His boss has all sorts of labor violations, but I won’t even go into that here.

I think what it gets down to is that I am hurt that my feelings aren’t a priority for him. I have been supporting him for years, and he’s not doing anything to change it. [/quote]

You say your kids ask why their dad doesn't eat dinner with them. And then you say if he made more money that would make it better. Not for the kids, it wouldn't. Just acknowledge that you wish he made more money and you're annoyed that he doesn't. If he worked fewer hours you'd still dislike him. Your disdain for him comes across loud and clear. You don't feel sorry for him. You dislike him. And if he made more money you'd like him better. [/quote]

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