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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. DH and I stuck with the no drinking through end of the month like we had agreed. There were no issues or sneaking anything. I personally missed having a glass of wine a few times and I think my DH did as well but after a week we both had pretty much gotten into a routine and the lack of drinks even in social situations was not a problem. I felt really good about how it went!

Today was the first day back to “normal.” It was also my DH’s last day at his prior job and day before we go on a big trip, so cause for celebration. We split a nice bottle of champagne and definitely felt it more than usual. My DH then proceeded to drink two martinis (3 shots each), a large serving of whiskey, and half a bottle of wine over about 4 hours during/after dinner. I feel like we are back to where we were. I brought that up, and DH got annoyed with me. Am I being neurotic? Is it possible/a good idea to jointly come up with what a “reasonable” amount of drinking is and both agree to it?[/quote]

You are exactly back where you were and then some. Because now there's no denying that he has a problem and isn't going to stop on his own, no matter how many "agreements" you come up with. And if he was annoyed when told him he was drinking too much, how do you think he is going to react when you are playing the role of "enforcer" of the alcohol limit? And do you really want to be the enforcer of the alcohol limit?

Find a therapist, go to Al-Anon and for good measure I'd get rid of what sounds like, well, a very healthy supply of alcohol in your home and point blank tell him it's because he has a problem with alcohol and you're not going to keep it around.

I was the poster that said this when everyone was piling on a couple of weeks ago:

[quote]DP - this is really unhelpful. OP is not dealing with repeated conversations and broken promises. It sounds like this current conversation/reaction may be the first or at least the start. I don't see what other choice she has at this point if he is willing to attempt steps to abstain and moderate.

If he fails in the 2.5 weeks or the story is repeating itself in 6 months then it's a different conversation. [/quote]

Now it's a different conversation. The choices aren't accept it or divorce, but I think you better decide how you want to live. [/quote]

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