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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP. I’m the person who is dealing with something incredibly similar (I’m a woman married to another woman, AP is a woman too). You might have seen some of my threads.

This exact thing is going on with me. The difference is the AP is local and I know she and DW are having regular sex. DW refuses to move out even though we are both miserable. She is 100% emotionally abusing me. Texting AP almost every minute — literally. Sending AP pics of our kids. Packing her lunches and bringing her coffee daily. My DW is truly an awful, heartless person, and frankly I’m not sure how she lives with her disgraceful self, and yet I’m having so much trouble letting go of our family unit.

I guess I just wanted to commiserate and tell you you aren’t alone. Hugs. We both deserve so much better, and so do our kids.[/quote]

OP here. Oh boy, what a difficult situation!! I'm so sorry. I get what you mean about keeping the family unit together. This is quite a crisis and I don't wish this on anyone. Do you have a support system? Are you guys in the process of getting a divorce?[/quote]

I do have a support system but I still feel incredibly alone. Everyone has their own lives and their own problems at the end of the day. DW has the AP to comfort her (although DW seems totally ok with the dissolution of our family because affair fog). The nights are so hard, after the kids are in bed.

Yes, DW has started the divorce process (to catch you up on my story, DW wants to marry AP, and AP is kind of the puppeteer moving things along because she is undocumented and financially unstable and DW is her ticket; meanwhile DW is so completely obsessed that she will stop at almost nothing to get out of the house and start her fantasy life with AP). The process is moving quicker than I am comfortable with for many reasons, so I am trying to pump the breaks a bit although I would love for DW to get the F out of the house in the interim. [/quote]

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