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Curious but is your husband Asian OP? In the Asian cultures the husband seems to dictate that his parents get more respect than his wife's parents and maybe culture is influencing your DH's decision.[/quote]

[b]How is the GH asking for more respect for his parents? Her mom is coming to stay with them and spend time with the baby. He is asking for the same for his parents - doesn't look to me as though he is asking for more respect for his parents at all. [/b][/quote]

DH is asking for more respect for his parents by expecting her to set aside her vulnerability at that time for the sake of his parents' wishes. She's a new mother. Her body has just undergone a huge change. She will also be extremely emotional and fatigued. She will face challenges she's never faced before. This is a vulnerable time for her moreso than it will be for DH or his parents. So she deserves to find and choose people who can help her the most. By telling his wife to forget her needs during this time, he's asking for more respect to be given to his parents.

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Still don't get though how this is asking for more respect for his parents than hers? How is he disrespecting her parents by wanting his to be there? I am not saying his parents should come but I don't see him asking for any more respect for his parents than for hers. He may at this point be putting more weight on his parents wishes than on his wife's but I don't see anyway he is disrespecting her parents. just not a fan of the crucify the man mentality where he gets blamed for things he has never even done. [/quote]

By inviting his parents and ousting her parents from the house to accommodate his parents, he is showing a greater deference and respect to his parents' feelings because he's overlooked her wishes. Her wish was for him to acknowledge the greater respect she felt for her parents and they for her - as reflected in the closeness and intimacy they feel for one another. So it's an insult to OP as well as to OP's parents to completely shirk their wishes.[/quote]

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