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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Instead of using your parents or DCUM posters as your gauge...why don't you look up what ACTUAL EXPERTS say about this.

https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/moderate-binge-drinking

This one tells you his risk of becoming a problem drinker, based upon his current patterns:

https://www.rightstep.com/rehab-blog/risk-drinking-excessive-drinking-defined-niaaa/

Your parents love you very much, and want to be sure that you are not entering into a high risk marriage.

I would NOT mention your parents to the SO, but do your own homework. If you have concerns, share them with him (using reputable professional sources, again, not family sources) and see how he reacts. [/quote]

Because it needs repeating.[/quote]

Thank you, these are helpful.

After reading these, I don't think BF is an alcoholic, but I think we BOTH could benefit from less 'partying' type drinking (and no drinking at all at family functions). I may start with suggesting we try a 'dry' month, or substitute an active date for a weekly happy hour. If he balks at that...well...that's a more serious issue.[/quote]

Op was it really just two events over a long time? I asked above, wondering why this specifically you won’t answer. Two times over the course of years seems like your parents being crazy and picky[/quote]

In that case I think most of these people are being a little insane. If I told you my worst drinking story it would a million percent look like I was an alcoholic 
(got so drunk was stumbling around a city in the dark, threw up into my purse on the steps of a hotel and someone called an ambulance!), but it was just one crazy night. Even in parental settings, I have had a night where I drank too much around my parents.

Today I am a mom of three that basically only drinks when out which is maybe 1-2 times a month and if I have more than three drinks I get sick because my tolerance is so low hahaha.

People have to be judged on this on a totality of incidents, I know very few people that don't have some crazy or just mildly stupid stories involving alcohol.

And I had an alcoholic parent FWIW so I am not making light of it overall. [/quote]

It's really not about what you think. As po pointed out most people will paint their actions in a better light,band make allowances for other's actions that are similar to their own.

By expert definition op's fiance is a problem/ binge drinker.[/quote]

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