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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"+1 right here. I love my DH as a person, and want him to be happy. But I don't want to be married to him anymore. We will continue our life together until our youngest is out of the house and then separate our lives. He is by no means more damaged goods than your average person, has a great job, and is a terrific dad. He makes terrible dad jokes and insists on listening to strange avant-garde music but he's fine really."

The problem is that for many people, the ability to leave a marriage because it's not great is a marker of damage. I married expecting that we'd get bored with one another, and I committed to addressing that head on and not walking away. I wouldn't find a person who thinks it's fine to walk away appealing as a life partner, because he'd do the same thing with me that he did with you. He lacked perspective on what a life partner is, and he lacked either the energy or skill to fulfill his marriage commitment. That's not attractive.[/quote]

This.  100 times this.   I’m not against divorce.  I think people should leave unhealthy situations.  But this seems more like people ending a marriage because of boredom instead of trying to reignite a spark.  I don’t think people have to get married.  You can have a long-term monogamous relationship and then split when it gets dull.  But I feel like marriage vows mean you don’t split when it gets dull.

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You’re both stunningly judgmental. Since you’re each staying in your marriages, because you’re both such good girls and work so hard on marriage it’s amazing you have the time to stay on here and opine (...and opine. And opine, no doubt), YOU are perfectly safe from dangerous broads like the PPs who are perhaps divorcing. You’re adding to stigma because...why? You’re bored? Because that’s how it’s coming across, no matter the pieties you use to dress it up. So lame.[/quote]

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