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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't get why the comments are so pissy. There are many careers that do require this type of schedule and I wonder if the comments would be the same if it were the dad working long days.

Anyway, OP, I would work on trusting your DH when he says he doesn't resent the current balance. Make sure you are recognizing his contributions. I would also try really hard to make sure you both have at least a couple of hours of downtime on the weekend, e.g., you take the baby Saturday morning and he has the morning to himself and he does Sunday morning. You do need a little time for yourself or you're going to crack. [/quote]

My comments would be exactly the same if it was the father working 65+ hours: that's no way to have a happy family life.  The only difference is that if the father works 65+ hours, typically he disengages from family life much more fully than the mom with the Big Job.  Tons of fathers get on the train in Scarsdale at 7:30am and return every night at 9pm after the kids are in bed.  They are perfectly happy leaving it all to the wife.  Most women can't disconnect to that degree.  That's probably better for the kids, but it seems unimaginably hard for the mom.  [/quote]

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