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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't afford a mortgage on take home of 12k per month? Sure you can.

You should be stashing a ton of money for yourself, at your current income. Prepare for divorce. It sounds like he is. Pay for childcare so you can study for the exam, if that is of importance right now.[/quote]

$12K a month is my family's entire gross pay and we're not badly off. There's zero reason to have money problems (either needing a provider OR complaining about someone not putting their weight on that income.[/quote]

OP here. Decent houses in the area where we would both like to live start at around $2m. So my $12k take-home pay (before taxes) will not go far. But I agree, I should not aspire to live in that expensive place.[/quote]

Take my word for it  - freedom in a condo > ahole spouse in a SFH.

You do not need a “nice house”. You need a nice family. It sounds like that can only happen if you ditch your spouse.[/quote]

I agree with the chorus of voices saying to move on the divorce now, stay where you are licensed and can afford housing, and where you have family and friends, and move on.

1. Consult an attorney for yourself to get advice on the process.
2. Focus on holding yourself together, meeting the needs of your child, and fulfilling work obligations where you are.
3. Safe apartments are better than $2 million unsafe houses.
4. Therapy for you.
5. Get to the point where you rarely have to think about him, and only in regards your son. Fill your life with wonderful things and people so that you are too busy to dwell on him.
6. Stay safe.[/quote]

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