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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree completely.  Also, if your kid is awkward socially, avoiding people forever isn't the solution.[/quote]

A child does not have to be "awkward socially" to be bullied or have some other reason to prefer not being around classmates. [b]Lots of very normal kids feel unsafe or unwelcome at school.
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That doesn't mean school should be closed. I'm fine with in-person being the default and it is certainly better for my child. But being online has solved problems for kids and I hope it continues to be an option.[/quote]

If this is true, how will they go to college?  Work?  Have adult relationships (romantic or otherwise)?   I think this has been a buffer for parents of 'weird' kids to feel like they get a breather, but it's not helping their kids in the long run.[/quote]

Your premise seems to be that school helps these kids and that social discomfort is somehow "for their own good" because they'll learn from it.  That's not typically true.  School is just hell for them until they can get into the wider world (whether that is HS, college, or adulthood) and control who they associate with and under what conditions.  Spending more time with bullies does not improve the situation for the bullied, and can cause long-term damage.  Kids who have mobility issues that make the classroom environment painful, or who have various food or medication needs, may be more physically comfortable at home where they control the surrounds.  Even taking your example of the merely "awkward" kid -- that kid might benefit from a social skills class, but is not going to just magically learn social skills from proximity to other children: that's a television fantasy.

When people talk about liking certain aspects of covid-era workarounds like remote school, they are identifying areas of the world that don't work for them, perhaps have never worked for them.  It's reactionary and frankly cruel to demand a return to a "normal" that didn't work for so many people, when we have the tools to allow them to continue to participate comfortably.
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