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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been in a very long term relationship. We recently got engaged and I found out he's been seeing someone else. We had been trying to get pregnant for about 6 months. For a few weeks he's become verbally abusive. He wasn't always this way. When I found out about the new relationship I was already pregnant. I've also found a few dating profiles. I stopped looking because it's hurtful. I've spoken to my therapist about our relationship and she says it sounds like he's " escalating". I'm  in my late 30s time is not on my side. I'm not going to terminate. I am however considering telling him I lost the pregnancy and going home to be with my family. They live a few thousand miles away we have no mutual friends. Is there anyway he can later come back and take my child from me?

Thanks for any and all advice[/quote]

Yes, move with your family and have the baby. Don't tell him you're terminating, just leave. You have all the rights until the child is born. You don't have to list him as the father on the birth certificate. Only if you want child support. But, if the child is born in another state, especially if you've been there long enough to be considered a resident, that child is a resident of that state, and many states, they don't want to award custody to the parent in another state.

If you don't list him, he would have to sue you for a paternity test to establish for the court that he's the father.

But yes, this will escalate. It is better to get out now. I had the same thing happen to me when I was pregnant. I almost moved home for this reason, but I stayed with my local support system. We got back together and the abuse got worse.  So, please leave now.[/quote]

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