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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m going to disagree with others and say this is not cheating. She sounds like she has lost her sex drive and is insecure about her body and herself. [b]She really may have trimmed down there because she didn’t want her OBgyn to judge her- though I’m pretty sure OBs have seen it all so who cares.[/b] 
I do think it’s strange that she gave you an eye roll about it.

Sounds like you need to sit down and have an open and honest conversation about this. I’m mid 40s and have lost my sex drive and am literally repulsed by the thought of sex at times. I’m not cheating- I just don’t care about sex at all. I try to do it at least once a month with my husband but it’s actually quite difficult for me to get excited about it at all.  I really wish there was something I could do to change my mindset- but the only thing that seems to work is drinking several glasses of wine. I don’t get turned on by porn or suggestive movies/books. Nothing. I’m guessing there are a lot of other women like me- because I’m always seeing posts on here about men upset with their wives and the lack of sex.

I don’t think the question has been asked yet- but are you in shape? Financially stable? Is there a possibly she has lost some attraction to you and that is why she doesn’t want sex?

Do you go on dates? Or spend time talking to one another?  If there is no emotional connection- it’s very difficult (at least for me) to be remotely interested in sex.

Is there a chance this is cheating? Maybe, but I think you should explore the other possible reasons I listed above before jumping to that conclusion. [/quote]

"I’m pretty sure OBs have seen it all so who cares." This.

[b]Do people really groom their public hair for a doctor's appointment?[/b] Especially during COVID, I've truly come to embrace the mentality of "alright, I'm here" as being more than sufficient for most things.

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Yes. I do trim up for the doctor and GYN. And I KNOW they've seen it all. and that they don't give two fcks about my hairy legs or unkempt bush or stray nip hair. But I want to be somewhat tidy, y'know? I have SOME pride left. I mean, a very very little after two kids sucked the life out of my boobs, but some.

I actually think the eye roll makes it believable. He said "it's hot" and she gave him an eye roll because she is not into sex at all right now. And she did it for the GYN. And the idea that her husband thinks she is hot is weird to her, because in no way does she think he is hot or anything he could do would be hot.[/quote]

All of this. Also, she may have rolled her eyes because it’s just so predictable that you find a hairless kitty hot. You’ve been conditioned to by rampant porn consumption. [/quote]

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