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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to disagree with others and say this is not cheating. She sounds like she has lost her sex drive and is insecure about her body and herself. She really may have trimmed down there because she didn’t want her OBgyn to judge her- though I’m pretty sure OBs have seen it all so who cares.
I do think it’s strange that she gave you an eye roll about it.

Sounds like you need to sit down and have an open and honest conversation about this. I’m mid 40s and have lost my sex drive and am literally repulsed by the thought of sex at times. I’m not cheating- I just don’t care about sex at all. I try to do it at least once a month with my husband but it’s actually quite difficult for me to get excited about it at all. I really wish there was something I could do to change my mindset- but the only thing that seems to work is drinking several glasses of wine. I don’t get turned on by porn or suggestive movies/books. Nothing. I’m guessing there are a lot of other women like me- because I’m always seeing posts on here about men upset with their wives and the lack of sex.

I don’t think the question has been asked yet- but are you in shape? Financially stable? Is there a possibly she has lost some attraction to you and that is why she doesn’t want sex?

Do you go on dates? Or spend time talking to one another? If there is no emotional connection- it’s very difficult (at least for me) to be remotely interested in sex.

Is there a chance this is cheating? Maybe, but I think you should explore the other possible reasons I listed above before jumping to that conclusion.

"I’m pretty sure OBs have seen it all so who cares." This.

Do people really groom their public hair for a doctor's appointment? Especially during COVID, I've truly come to embrace the mentality of "alright, I'm here" as being more than sufficient for most things.

Yes. I do trim up for the doctor and GYN. And I KNOW they've seen it all. and that they don't give two fcks about my hairy legs or unkempt bush or stray nip hair. But I want to be somewhat tidy, y'know? I have SOME pride left. I mean, a very very little after two kids sucked the life out of my boobs, but some.

I actually think the eye roll makes it believable. He said "it's hot" and she gave him an eye roll because she is not into sex at all right now. And she did it for the GYN. And the idea that her husband thinks she is hot is weird to her, because in no way does she think he is hot or anything he could do would be hot.

Anonymous wrote:I’m going to disagree with others and say this is not cheating. She sounds like she has lost her sex drive and is insecure about her body and herself. She really may have trimmed down there because she didn’t want her OBgyn to judge her- though I’m pretty sure OBs have seen it all so who cares.
I do think it’s strange that she gave you an eye roll about it.

Sounds like you need to sit down and have an open and honest conversation about this. I’m mid 40s and have lost my sex drive and am literally repulsed by the thought of sex at times. I’m not cheating- I just don’t care about sex at all. I try to do it at least once a month with my husband but it’s actually quite difficult for me to get excited about it at all. I really wish there was something I could do to change my mindset- but the only thing that seems to work is drinking several glasses of wine. I don’t get turned on by porn or suggestive movies/books. Nothing. I’m guessing there are a lot of other women like me- because I’m always seeing posts on here about men upset with their wives and the lack of sex.

I don’t think the question has been asked yet- but are you in shape? Financially stable? Is there a possibly she has lost some attraction to you and that is why she doesn’t want sex?

Do you go on dates? Or spend time talking to one another? If there is no emotional connection- it’s very difficult (at least for me) to be remotely interested in sex.

Is there a chance this is cheating? Maybe, but I think you should explore the other possible reasons I listed above before jumping to that conclusion.

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Anonymous wrote:Not to go into details, but it's more hygienic and cuts down on odor, so maybe she read that somewhere and tried it.

Wrong. Women with less pubic hair are more prone to infections. Hair has a biological purpose.

Wrong. Women with less pubic hair get laid more, so their chances rise. Women who aren't getting laid don't bother with that, because why would they.

Strippers, porn stars, hookers, everyday sluts and professional escorts are always clean-shaven. So you are correct that women with less pubic hair are getting laid more, and many are getting paid for it. These populations often have more infections.

Wow, guy here and you are just oozing with misogyny. WTF is an "everyday slut." A typical woman you can't get because you have no game at all? Keeping it shaved, trimmed, or waxed has been pretty common among women for decades now. Not just those in the business and you have no idea of the sex lives of any of them.

one that sleeps around behind her husband's back.

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Anonymous wrote:^look if I thought there was a possibility of cheating, I’m thinking of MY HEALTH. I’m not planning how to seduce my spouse. I’m thinking I don’t want to catch some dreadful STI. I always would investigate any possibility of cheating if there were signs for thus very big reason.

I’m shocked at those that suggest burying head in sand anytime somebody has concerns a spouse may be cheating.

It’s like you’re trying to hard sell that for yourself. Women trim for comfort more often than for others. People have been egging the cheating angle on to wind you up. If you think this little of your wife there are much larger problems than sex.

Just honesty. Grooming was a major sign that I only noticed after the affair was discovered. Looking back, it was obvious as h@ll. The hair he said bothered him when wearing workout shirts was really the hair he wanted removed for his new AP.

I thought cyber would be very blatant signs of the man I had been with 20 years was cheating. There were basically none. Why question “I’m heading to the gym” or “I have to run into the Office for a few hours” when nothing seems out of the ordinary otherwise.

After talking to others, I find so many were completely blindsided.

My therapist said “the number one risk factor for your partner to cheat or have an affair is thinking that they would never do that.” Never in a million years did i think mine would have. It didn’t seem in his character.

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Anonymous wrote:Not to go into details, but it's more hygienic and cuts down on odor, so maybe she read that somewhere and tried it.

Wrong. Women with less pubic hair are more prone to infections. Hair has a biological purpose.

Wrong. Women with less pubic hair get laid more, so their chances rise. Women who aren't getting laid don't bother with that, because why would they.

Strippers, porn stars, hookers, everyday sluts and professional escorts are always clean-shaven. So you are correct that women with less pubic hair are getting laid more, and many are getting paid for it. These populations often have more infections.

Wow, guy here and you are just oozing with misogyny. WTF is an "everyday slut." A typical woman you can't get because you have no game at all? Keeping it shaved, trimmed, or waxed has been pretty common among women for decades now. Not just those in the business and you have no idea of the sex lives of any of them.

Anonymous wrote:If true, this is kinda sad. She trims down for her OB but not for you? You get the eye roll and sex in the dark while she rejects oral from you?

As for cheating, you gave her a hall pass when you brought up opening the marriage. She doesn't have to play by your assumed rules if she takes you up on it. Be careful what you wish for. She may actually like the idea, but only for herself.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to go into details, but it's more hygienic and cuts down on odor, so maybe she read that somewhere and tried it.

Wrong. Women with less pubic hair are more prone to infections. Hair has a biological purpose.

Wrong. Women with less pubic hair get laid more, so their chances rise. Women who aren't getting laid don't bother with that, because why would they.

Strippers, porn stars, hookers, everyday sluts and professional escorts are always clean-shaven. So you are correct that women with less pubic hair are getting laid more, and many are getting paid for it. These populations often have more infections.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to disagree with others and say this is not cheating. She sounds like she has lost her sex drive and is insecure about her body and herself. She really may have trimmed down there because she didn’t want her OBgyn to judge her- though I’m pretty sure OBs have seen it all so who cares.
I do think it’s strange that she gave you an eye roll about it.

Sounds like you need to sit down and have an open and honest conversation about this. I’m mid 40s and have lost my sex drive and am literally repulsed by the thought of sex at times. I’m not cheating- I just don’t care about sex at all. I try to do it at least once a month with my husband but it’s actually quite difficult for me to get excited about it at all. I really wish there was something I could do to change my mindset- but the only thing that seems to work is drinking several glasses of wine. I don’t get turned on by porn or suggestive movies/books. Nothing. I’m guessing there are a lot of other women like me- because I’m always seeing posts on here about men upset with their wives and the lack of sex.

I don’t think the question has been asked yet- but are you in shape? Financially stable? Is there a possibly she has lost some attraction to you and that is why she doesn’t want sex?

Do you go on dates? Or spend time talking to one another? If there is no emotional connection- it’s very difficult (at least for me) to be remotely interested in sex.

Is there a chance this is cheating? Maybe, but I think you should explore the other possible reasons I listed above before jumping to that conclusion.

"I’m pretty sure OBs have seen it all so who cares." This.

Do people really groom their public hair for a doctor's appointment? Especially during COVID, I've truly come to embrace the mentality of "alright, I'm here" as being more than sufficient for most things.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^look if I thought there was a possibility of cheating, I’m thinking of MY HEALTH. I’m not planning how to seduce my spouse. I’m thinking I don’t want to catch some dreadful STI. I always would investigate any possibility of cheating if there were signs for thus very big reason.

I’m shocked at those that suggest burying head in sand anytime somebody has concerns a spouse may be cheating.

It’s like you’re trying to hard sell that for yourself. Women trim for comfort more often than for others. People have been egging the cheating angle on to wind you up. If you think this little of your wife there are much larger problems than sex.