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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some kids are obsessed with school and learning and ECs... some are obsessed with sports and hate school... some overachievers are obsessed with school and learning AND sports/ECs... and some are apathetic and into nothing but pissing their life away on the couch.

The glass is half full comments are acting like kids into nothing are actually closet geniuses who magically turn into motivated goal-orientated professionals. I'm sorry, that's a delusional outlook. If you're an unmotivated loser you're not absorbing knowledge or skills at school or at home. You remain a dullard.

Read Gladwell's Outliers book, you need reps or 10,000 hours of doing something to become good. Kids become good public speakers getting public speaking reps. Kids become great writers writing a lot. Kids become the next Mark Zuckerberg writing code in their teens. You get the idea. The only thing a kid like OP described is going to be good at is video games and ordering pizza with mom's credit card as that's what his 10,000 hours were spent doing.[/quote]

You need 10K hours to be REALLY good, but the fact of the matter is that many people are not REALLY good at anything. Most people are just OK. If OP's kid graduates from a 4- year college, he's already ahead of the game in the grand scheme of things. The problem with people like OP is that they project their own insecurities onto their kids. The need for validation. The need for prestige. Sure, those things can be satisfying, but is it worth making your kid hate you for failing to love him as he is? There's a huge difference between motivating a kid and making him feel like a loser.[/quote]

[b]What in the world makes you assume OP's kid will go to college let alone finish a BA? The point of the Gladwell reference was people aren't "naturals" and late bloomers don't fall from the sky with all these God-given skills. OP's kid isn't "repping" or practicing for anything other than being a terminally unmotivated couch potato[/b].[/quote]

Hey, OP, if you don't like the perspectives given here, then why bother posting?[/quote]

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