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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, having sex once a week is going to be a lot easier than sex therapy or divorce or whatever.

I totally get being overtouched, tired, etc, but I also realized I have to--and can--get myself in the mood. This is what we used to do when the kids were little.

Thursdays--cleaning people came so the house was tidy, we ordered in pizza and salad so I did not cook, I went to an exercise class, came home, showered, had a glass of wine while DH dealt with the kids. after putting them in bed, got myself in the mood with him or on my own, with a little device. At first this felt weird to plan it out but then it was great. DH wasn't wondering if it would happen or not and I did't have to suddenly make the mental switch from mom mode to lover mode. I had plenty of time and I think, ni the end, that was the key. Its making the mental switch to being a lover. DH never had this issue (maybe most men dont?).

Here's the thing: I like sex once I am into it! Its just getting into it that was the huge challenge....[/quote]

Confirmed: most men do not have any trouble mentally switching into sex mode. Quite the opposite![b] Sex is our default mode. We have trouble switching sex mode OFF.[/b][/quote]

Could you please elaborate more regarding this? As a woman, I'd like an insight into understanding men's sexual needs. What does a day in the life of a man with a switched sex mode, seem like?[/quote]

Imagine a radar screen with a man at the center. At any point in the day there can be a blip on the screen even if it's on the far outer edge. When it's out on the outer edge you might not even notice it but it's there. As it gets closer to the center it begins to get your attention. When it gets to the center you want to fire a torpedo. [/quote]

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