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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. We are in a bubble with my inlaws. It’s FIL. He’s mid 60’s and perfectly capable of serving himself and waiting his turn. He also has a wife capable of waiting on him if that’s their thing.

I just need a response to make him stop asking me. I don’t care if he asks someone else. [/quote]

Technically if he is an elder guest then you should be serving him and his wife first.  I don't understand why you don't know that but you should have learned this when you were a kid.  So actually you're the one being rude, not him, if you're serving other people before him and his wife.[/quote]

Lol. “The hostess” has spoken. It’s not the 1950’s anymore. Keep up.[/quote]

If you think that being polite and having manners have gone out the window then I feel very sorry for you.  I can't imagine how horrible it must be to be you.  Yuck.[/quote]

How about good manners is not assuming a woman is a servant, and singling her out as such. How about good manners is asking for help with grace and an eye to what a busy person is already doing for others, and being patient and flexible?

How about that?

NP[/quote]

If the woman is the hostess of the event, then it is her role to serve or to supervise service.  If it is a man who is the host of the event, then it is his role to serve or to supervise service.  In this case, OP has identified a gender as female.  Her responsibilities as hostess don't disappear because she is female.  I'm sorry you're stuck in a stereotype loop but the circumstances of host/hostess responsibilities take precedence over your own biases.[/quote]

Lol. You aren’t the decider of what defines a responsibility versus a bias oh narcissistic one. How often is the man the identified “host?” Really? Most times, never. Calling a woman a “hostess,” particularly if her male partner never takes a turn as “host,” is the very definition of creating a label to excuse gender based inequality. However, I’m fully aware saying this to you is like talking to a doorknob. Luckily, your way of viewing the world is quickly disappearing for the new generations of females. Hooray for that! [/quote]

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