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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. We are in a bubble with my inlaws. It’s FIL. He’s mid 60’s and perfectly capable of serving himself and waiting his turn. He also has a wife capable of waiting on him if that’s their thing.

I just need a response to make him stop asking me. I don’t care if he asks someone else. [/quote]

Technically if he is an elder guest then you should be serving him and his wife first.  I don't understand why you don't know that but you should have learned this when you were a kid.  So actually you're the one being rude, not him, if you're serving other people before him and his wife.[/quote]

Lol. “The hostess” has spoken. It’s not the 1950’s anymore. Keep up.[/quote]

If you think that being polite and having manners have gone out the window then I feel very sorry for you.  I can't imagine how horrible it must be to be you.  Yuck.[/quote]

How about good manners is not assuming a woman is a servant, and singling her out as such. How about good manners is asking for help with grace and an eye to what a busy person is already doing for others, and being patient and flexible?

How about that?

NP[/quote]

If the woman is the hostess of the event, then it is her role to serve or to supervise service.  If it is a man who is the host of the event, then it is his role to serve or to supervise service.  In this case, OP has identified a gender as female.  Her responsibilities as hostess don't disappear because she is female.  I'm sorry you're stuck in a stereotype loop but the circumstances of host/hostess responsibilities take precedence over your own biases.[/quote]

If she and her husband are *co-hosting* an event, especially an informal buffet, guests can politely ask BOTH their hosts for assistance. If needed, they can wait a few precious moments for that assistance. No need to ask Susan to serve you in her hands are full and YOUR SON is also hosting you. Do you get it? People with penisis can host, too! The More You Know...[/quote]

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