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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op if you want your kid to respond to you in your language you should go back to  only speaking to them in your language.

When other people are around, speak to THEM in english, not your kid. you can translate and repeat yourself in english to the people if you need to.

When you look in your child's eyes connect that with your language.

If your kids are picking up that you are uncomfortable speaking your language in front of others if will be interpreted to them that english is of higher social value, and your kids will just want to speak English. This is a sociological thing that happens with so many languages based on social value. Kids pick up on social value of languages.

There is a lot of information on raising bilingual kids out there that you can find. 
What worked for ideas treating it as a manners thing. We taught our kids it was wrong to reply in a different language. If you are addressed in a language, you should reply in that language.

I would be strict with your kids and silly even. Dramatically and hilariously misunderstand them when they speak to you in english. Be annoying about it. Require the language. raising them bilingually is a gift that is worth the work to undo this dynamic.

My dh understands the language I spoke to our kids, but he hilariously would pretend he did not. I would say "put on your shoes" and he would say,I don't know what your mom said but you should put on your shoes first!" They found this hilatious.  He still does it. It is like a dad joke, they are teens now and have finally caught on that he is mistranslating on purpose. It is an ongoing family joke.

Obviously you should not misunderstand when other people speak English to you, but when your kids say like "can I have more dessert?" In english you could say, "oh I am so happy you want more carrots!" In your language and then they can correct your misunderstanding in your language to clarify what they meant.  Also another popular thing people do is to move very slowly if your kids ask you in english, but very fast when they use your language.

These things are only necessary to get your kids to make a new habit. You will not have to keep it up forever. You can do this.

Especially right now with shelter in place, it is the time to make this change. [/quote]

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