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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I don’t think people realize the construct of rank across organizations is really messy, especially in the non-profit world. The more “junior” person could have substantial expertise or local credibility that is important to her organization. The sister organization coming in and pulling rank is analogous to HQ dictating to local markets in a more traditional organization

So what? Every time someone has attitude at work, you're going to have a facilitated call and questionnarie? That sounds insufferable.

Let's be clear here. It was OP who had the attitude at work. And, apparently if you want to work in her industry, it is what you have to do.[/quote]

I assumed it was here.  What are you clarfiying?  Or should we wait for a healing circle to get that straight?[/quote]

This is OP. I didn't have an attitude, but I did pull rank. The successful implementation of the program is ultimately my responsibility. She was not in the right sending an email to people that I manage directing them to change client services based on solely on her opinions alone. Rather than owning her own arrogance and mistake, she is making this about me. And obviously having some success as we all bend over backwards to be sensitive to people's feelings.  I bet men never have to deal with this.

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Wow- look at all of the drama your putting her in her place has caused.

You could have just responded to the email in a positive and partnering way. If you had said something like”These are great ideas, let’s schedule some time to discuss between us.  We will want to be sure everyone is on board before we take action.” Then you might have learned why she was acting with such a sense of urgency. Perhaps there are local stakeholders with a lot of passion about a few things.  Or perhaps she didn’t realize what your work processes are.  Since she “supports you on the ground” it is completely possible she has perspective you lack.

And the weird focus on position and power here makes me realize why younger people are so annoyed.  Don’t you have the same goal- to support your project? I thought women were better than this.  It is a p*ssing contest for you.[/quote]

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