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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On what planet is a divorced able bodied woman supported by her EX husband? Earth to the clueless: it's year 2020. GET A FULLTIME JOB LADIES. For all intents, is no such thing as alimony anymore.[/quote]

I don’t think that really happens anymore. I got no alimony and very little child support.

The only men I know who support their ex-wives basically gave up custody because they wanted to move out of state, focus on work, or didn’t enjoy being a parent. So they end up paying a lot more in child support since mom has them full-time. Often they send extra money because they feel guilty.[/quote]

I think many women don’t realize this until it’s too late.  They only read the fiction of fabulous lives and ex’s $.[/quote]

I don’t know any woman who divorced thinking they would get a ton of money, and they were all happy to give up money for their freedom. [/quote]

It is not the old days. Women are not being supported post-divorce. People who think otherwise have no clue. [/quote]

The original question was SAHM.

A woman who is a SAHM in a long-term relationship will get spousal support. Typically for half the length of the marriage and if married over 20 years, lifetime. Especially if the husband is a high earner.[/quote]

No. Your information is about 60 years old. A SAHM will NOT get long term spousal support and definitely not lifetime spousal support. She will get a full time job and support herself like functioning adults do.
At BEST she will get a couple dollars while she trains her way back into the workforce.[/quote]

No, honey. My information about this is not 60 years old. It is based on my experience getting separated and divorced in Virginia in the last 18 months.

It really comes down to the judge. Wife is required to work but in cases where she is a SAHM and doesn’t have earning potential, spousal support typically will be awarded for a duration of half the marriage, especially if there is a huge income difference.

I literally just went through this. What is your experience?

I ultimately ended up not having to pay her because I could provide adultery. But that was the only reason.[/quote]

I am not that poster but your situation is not the norm. Most women in this area are not in this category: "SAHM and doesn’t have earning potential". Most are two income couples and if they are not, one spouse does not often make more than 250k a year to award enough spousal support to live on. And most don't have adultery as a factor where the offending party was the person without any income.

Most people do not get spousal support, and if they do, it is temporary until they can get a job. Especially people with household incomes of less than 250k. [/quote]

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