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This isn't really about higher education or income. It's about class. Much of the time, education level and income is a pretty good indicator of class. However, I think we all know wealthy people who are trashy and poor people who have class.

[b]Having a baby shower is a trashy thing to do.[/b] Period. If you can't afford to have kids, don't have kids. If you have friends/family who want to buy you gifts for your baby, that's great, but then they ask what they can give you to celebrate the occasion and you answer. You don't send around an "invitation" (or get someone to send it around) for people to give you gifts. And it's also trashy for someone else to throw you a shower (unless maybe it's a genuine surprise and people know that), but throwing YOURSELF a shower is beyond trashy.

I had no money when I started having children. I was gifted a couple of smaller items but we paid for the baby ourselves. If I knew that someone was planning to buy us something bigger then I would have politely insisted that they didn't need to do that. You know what we did? We bought what we needed (that does NOT include diaper genies and whatever else was on the "need" list in this thread!) and a couple of small wanted items and nothing else. And yes, we waited to have children until we were 30 and in a position to afford those things on our own, because our decision to have children should not be someone else's problem. [/quote]

Just because you say it doesn't make it true.  Baby showers are pretty standard in our society and most people don't think they are "trashy".  Sorry you don't like it.[/quote]

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