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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My SIL used us as a place to get rid of all her stuff too. It was a little annoying but in with the stuff I didn't want was often useful stuff that we could use. So we thanked her and donated what we didn't want. But I don't think you can expect someone to sort the wheat from the chaff for you. So you can say "no thanks" but I think you really have to say no to all of it. She can likely find other takers especially if she's a member of these groups - people are still doing contactless drop offs/pick ups - she probably thinks she's being nice.

Your implication that it is somehow gross or shocking that she might be giving you clothes or other things that she got for free is silly. If the stuff hasn't reached the end of its useful life and it is clean (or cleanable), there's nothing wrong with it because someone chose to pass it on for free rather than throw it away. It's a more sustainable choice and we'd all be better off if more of us did this for more stuff - especially kid stuff that you go through so quickly. You don't have to want used stuff, and its fine to want to pick all new stuff and be excited about it, but there's nothing inherently wrong or gross about free stuff either. [/quote]

I don’t think OP is implying that it’s gross (although, as someone who has been through a bout of bedbugs, I wouldn’t blame her if she didn’t want random stuff from people she doesn’t know). I think she is noting that her friend may be even more insulted by a rejection of the stuff if friend has gone through extra effort to get it from someone else (as opposed to just cleaning her own closets). [/quote]

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