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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is how a lot of post-menopausal women feel. I love my husband, and sex is no longer a need or a want for me, no matter how much I enjoyed and was enthusiastic about it for most of our marriage (30+ years). It means a lot to him, so we have sex...but[b] this idea he can’t really enjoy it unless I really want it too confounds me. My body and libido are what they are[/b]. [/quote]

Yes, exactly. So having sex is not enough, I have to show enthusiasm and interest that I don’t feel? Because of him?[/quote]

And don't forget that it's not only interest, you have to have the right frequency and not say no to any sex acts that he may want.  It's like men will say we are willing to work on this (go to marriage counselor etc.) but really no compromise is right for them.  You start to hear complaints no matter how the wife is willing to compromise.  There have been threads where a husband will complain that scheduled sex isn't good because there's no spontaneity/wife doesn't seem excited.  It's like negative reinforcement.  At some point, wives will just have no reason to work on this if the outcome is always negative as per the husband.  Maybe men just want to leave their marriage and this becomes their reason to do so (or at least it can appear that way).  [/quote]

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