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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really, truly hope I don't know any of the ones claiming to be owed anything.  By anyone.  Grow the f*ck up.  Take responsibility for your own lives and how they did or did not take shape.  Don't blame anyone else (including and especially an aged parent, you should be ashamed of yourself) for who you married.  Disgusting.    [/quote]

I agree. My husband's mother and her sister could not WAIT until their mother died so that they could get her money. It was horrifying. I loved their mother and just hoped she would live to 110 and that she would spend every penny on herself before she died. And guess what, she lived to 98, and then my husband's mother died of lung cancer five years later. So she wasted twenty years of her life waiting for money that she wasn't even able to enjoy.

On the other hand, my family has all sorts of trusts set up, but we don't talk about them. I consider it all my parents' money - for a rainy day or medical issues or whatever they might need as they get old. I hate to even think about them because it would mean that something bad happened to my parents. So I hate this whole thread and the ways that people are wondering about how their parents' money will help finance their own retirements.

Gross.

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you people are bizarre.  [b]Of course I expect my family to leave me an inheritance, and of course we discuss it.  Just like I expect to leave my children an inheritance [/b]and I will discuss it with them.  I consider all of it OUR money, not one individual. [/quote]

Some researchers suspect that as many as half of all people over 80 years old develop Alzheimer's disease.

Do you expect to live independently and not need to spend huge sums of money, until the day you die?[/quote]

if my parents get sick they will live with me.  If I get sick when I am old, my kids will take care of me.  again, its a family.[/quote]

My mother, who has dementia, lives in an assisted living community and is moving to a nursing home shortly (her costs will increase to $500/day).  She cannot walk, she can no longer feed herself (must be spoon-fed).  She cannot turn in bed or in a chair/wheelchair, because the neuronal connections that tell her to shift position are gone.  Therefore she gets bed and chair sores and has to be re-positioned every couple of hours.  She is 100% incontinent and cannot toilet herself even if she can make it there with help (cannot walk).  She cannot dress herself, brush her teeth, or groom herself.  She is very confused and cries frequently because she doesn't know where my (deceased) dad is.  She doesn't know what year it is, and cannot name her children.  Most of the time she recognizes us, but not always.

So if your parents get "sick" as defined above, they will live with you - and who will care for them 24 hours/day?

For me - there is no way I will put my kids in the position of having to care for me to that degree.  Never.[/quote]

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