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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your 8 yr old needs some serious help. Really, OP.  You can not excuse this away.  That she just looked at you, shrugged, and took your phone to play games on it?  That  is MESSED UP. [/quote]
+1 Stop excusing your child as “clueless”. An 8 yo should have been panicking that you were not responding. That their response was to take your phone and play games shows there is something terribly wrong with your child’s mental state. You really need to have your child evaluated by a psychiatrist.[/quote]

She IS seeing someone.  She just doesn’t have common sense in these situations. Things need to be spelled out for her.[/quote]

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OP, please be certain to tell whatever professional she's already seeing (psychiatrist, psychologist, counselor?) all about this situation and her reactions--both her taking the phone and also her remorse and upset when she realized later that you were actually in trouble. Her doctor needs to know all this ASAP. She may be at least upset and blaming herself, at worst traumatized if she's thinking "mommy could have died" etc. Things like this can loom larger for kids, and longer longer in their minds, than adults realize.

I would NOT talk about it with the doc in front of her, though. Ask the doctor for specific ideas about how to address this with DD and how to work with her on basic safety issues like when and how to call 911, etc.

The fact you keep repeating "she just doesn't have common sense in these situations" and variations on that theme is worrying; unless she has developmental issues that mean she really cannot comprehend danger, it's time she learned safety basics that are appropriate for eight year olds. It's not perfect of course--other kids her age very likely might not have realized you were really out cold, either! -- but the repeated "she lacks common sense" on your part seems to indicate you think she can't handle anything. Work with whoever she's "seeing" to empower her with a set of steps she can remember if something goes wrong. Written steps if need be, kept in a specific, unchanging place or whatever. (Shout at the person who is not responding; gently shake the shoulder; call 911; the house address is written down and posted on the wall by the phone; etc.) She probably is scared about what happened and could use some confidence that can come from having her own special steps to follow and rehearsing when to use them.

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