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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a similar issue where I’m maxed out and dh travels a lot. My in-laws want us to visit every month on the only weekend dh ever has at home. I’m breastfeeding an infant so it’s not like dh can take the kids without me. Their ask is so out of bounds. They refuse to visit our much larger house with a dedicated guest room. At one point I was ready to divorce dh over it. [/quote]

I don't get this at all. If my DH ever came to me and said he would divorce me if I made time in my life to see my parents or to have my family involved in my life...I would find him abusive and controlling. I love that my kids have grandparents and we welcome both sets into their lives. I can't imagine telling DH that his family wanting to be in contact with him and our kids is divorce worthy  You all are nasty, spiteful, self-centered people.[/quote]

You’d spend your only weekend with dh at his parents house every single month? You never want to have family time with your dh? Why did you even bother getting married?[/quote]

Note, she has an infant that she cares for almost exclusively on her own. The only weekend her DH is home, her ILs want them to take on a huge project of visiting - driving, staying in a cramped house and all associates stress.

The older generation can be so incredibly selfish towards young parents, it’s truly unbelievable. The DHs who just can’t say no to their parents are pathetic too. They’d rather dump everything on their wives. It’s really depressing how women get completely dehumanized by inlaws. It’s as if their only purpose is to be an incubator for grandchildren and a workhorse for the extended family.

Asking to be treated as a human being is too much for these types.

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